Divorce! Help! Questions.....?

Lino Cawthorne: You can file joint custody of the children. I think an attorney can write something up for you but, there is a fee.My ex and I did the same thing! Here's the kicker. Sense she filed in Arizona and I was in Houston, they wanted five hundred more dollars to write something up for us. The other kicker was, sense I wasn't there, they were going to give her full custody unless we paid the money. So, what we did was, let them take the child support out and she mailed me back the money. Then we finally got it to where they just mailed it back to my post office box. Just so everyone knows and doesn't try to judge me, I had the kids and have raised them. We are all very close and my ex and I are too.Yes you can file for a divorce yourself without all of the other fee's but, I can't remember what you call it. I think it's called (Poppers oath) something like that. There are a lot of ways to do it on line too. Have a good one and good luck...Show more

Marita St! adick: If the divorce is not contested and friendly as your's seems to be, just go on-line and look for divorce papers for your state. I would recommend, however, that you spell out what you are both agreeing to now so that there is no confusion in the future.

Season Confalone: DEAR Good DAD,it is great to know that you and your soon to be ex are working civil together on this matter there is a very easy and inexpensive way to do this. First you can pick up divorce papers from the nearest book store BarnesnNoble,ect.. then you fill in the blanks were needed, then if you need to add more about agreeing on no child support you get legal size paper and you document it professional you both need two witnesses and you go get it notorized ( do not sign your name to anything with out the notory in front of you) you can go to your nearest bank or police station whoever can be a notorizer and bring your witnesses to this and all sighn the papers This will make it official.The! n you bring this to the social securitie office to have your n! ames changed.i hope this helps youSincerely Jennifer...Show more

Sherrill Botting: That would depend on what state you live in/ When my ex and I split, he agreed not to ask for child support (he had custody), and if you both agree the court will not force you. Look in the yellow pages for legal aid society to get advice on getting it done for the least money.

Francis Stickle: If she agrees get joint custody and you wont have to pay child support

Inell Riesgo: So you don't want to financially support your children? Now that's what I call a DEAD BEAT DAD...

Maria Devenney: I heard of those divorce kits that all u have to do is file them with the courts im not sure how much when i get my kit ill let you know LOL hopes this helps

Shane Getler: Get a divorce kit. Fill it out, call the court house, make an appointment with the judge, show up, the judge signs the papers and your divorce is granted right then and there.

Herma Ellebrecht: I kn! ow someone who went through a divorce clean like that and it still cost him around $700 so I really don't know. Divorce is not cheap, simple or not.

Jen Maday: You should have a lawyer when you buy a house. You should have a lawyer when you get a divorce. You said that you dont't want battles. Well, each of you should have a lawyer because she needs someone to protect her interests too. If you both agree on the child support issue, then there is no problem. By trying to do this 'on the cheap', you are asking for way too much trouble later. The law is the law and marriage is a contract. I hope you don't sign contracts the way you deal with divorce (gimme it, I want it over, no, I'm not going to read the fine print, why should I, is it going to cost me?)...Show more

Inell Riesgo: Do not think for a moment that you will get away from paying child support. Unless your wife is making far more money than you it is most likely going to come at some point in time. ! Your wife can petition the courts at any time for child support until ! the reach the age of consent or as late as their university graduation. In addition you might be required to provide health coverage and childcare expenses. What is said and agreed to now pertaining to the children is not cast in stone the same way property is divided or debt payments are settled....Show more

Eliseo Luma: Have you tried getting legal aide?

Mack Ukich: check out this site where you can get forms and basic info.http://www.nolopress.com/also consider a "collaborative" divorce. i'm sure there is someone who specializes in that in your state.http://www.nocourtdivorce.com/right.phtmlright now i'm doing it in my state. i wanted to do a kit on my own, but sometimes with kids involved it's not the greatest idea b/c the judge may raise certain flags. i would at least find one or two collaborative attorneys in your area and get a couple of free phone consultations. make your decision from there.good luck to you both....Show more

An Cardine: I a! m so glad u & ex r doing it that way!!!Studys have proved that kids grow up better when no $$$between x's. In NY the courts encourage u to try this way b/4 they garnish pay checks due to non-pmt. we also have family court system some states do not hav this. I belive staples sells that kit??

Jackelyn Archut: I AM TAKING GOOD CARE OF MY KIDS! THEY HAVE AND WILL RECEIVE EVERYTHING THEY NEED, WANT AND DESERVE. I AM NOT A DEAD BEAT DAD. PLEASE NO MORE IGNORANT COMMENTS!...

Jene Kostyla: We are seperating in Chicago. I heard I can simply go to a Checks cashed place and do it there...About the Divorce Kits. Where can i get them?

Sook Hershkowitz: I think it depends on what state you live in, but, if it is a divorce where you both agree, you may only pay a couple hundred dollars. But, my sister just got divorced in Michigan, and before they could get it, all the debts had to be paid off, and everything was split 50/50.. even though they were agreeing on everything! . She lost half of her pension and other savings she had... he gained. ! In Pennsylvania, it is different. Sometimes you see an ad in the classified for divorce being only a couple hundred. You should check where you live....Show more

Joeann Hoyt: Yes there is a way finacially I don't know but,the judge will ask what you guys want as for custody and child support and as long as you both sighn you don't want it and you both want the same rights for the kids then it should be smooth sailing.

Mack Ukich: Sir, that was a good spill, but let's be for real. Things happen in life, kids get older and need different things. There is a possibility you could move on find someone and have another family(another obligation) and can't meet your financial requirements. A judge is more better apt to tally the incomes and make a fair sum of what is to be paid. You could get a higher paying job, hit the lotto, be left a lump sum and your soon to be ex-wife would probably feel entitled to your money. You need a child support order to protect yourse! lf from the future. Yes, everything looks black and white now, but trust me buddy things could change. Another thing to look at is joint custody where you cut the cost of the expenses for half of the year and the ex catches the other half.Then there is the problem of who files the kids on the taxes. Brother, your rushing in with no shoes on your feet and you are about to make the biggest mistake of your life. On top of that the ex could go back and file non-support on you at anytime. So sit down take a deep breath , get legal consultation cause your not thinking things all the way through. And for the record, I don't think your a dead beat dad, your just looking for an easy way out and there is none....Show more

William Vickerman: I divorced in Minnesota, so it may be different in your state. I went to the courthouse and asked for forms to divorce. I took it home (kind of a long form) filled it out, had our signatures notorized, and we paid something like $150. ! Done.Because we both agreed on terms, there was no need for a lawyer.

Providencia Jalbert: its not your decision the courts look at it-child support-as the childrens-i am pretty sure you will have to pay and if you were any kind of father you wouldn't object to being "forced"... dumb *** -you never know what is gonna happen in the future-getting remarried, etc-you should definetly want something in writing as well as your soon to be ex...just to safeguard yourself in the future...she may come back years from now and say you never paid and want back support-then you will be really screwed.......Show more

Marvella Benward: You can all the local court clerk office they will guide you. Last I check it was $50.00 .

Ulysses Failey: If the divorce is friendly, you can do it for free. Avoid Lawyers.Check this article: http://www.easyunderstand.com/divorce/9493.php

Fannie Collingwood: Take the high road, find a good mediator, and yes do not get an Attorney involved unless their are assets that will out weigh the amount you wil! l be taking out of your kids mouth to pay the only person who always wins in a divorce proceeding. The ATTORNEYS...................

Florencia Manolakis: Unfortunately Marriage is a legally binding relationship and to have it properly anulled you will both need independent legal representation... so that there are no hiccups. One hiccup will be child support. I think it is compulsory in most jurisdictions... that's the price of having children.... they cost money. Get advice or simply separate by mutual agreement and leave the marriage intact.

Jonelle Eligio: you can get divorce kits at wal mart book store. or many large drugstores, and printing supply shops have them about $25.00 dollars ..