Barrett Alosa: Am sure that lack of a male role model will affect your son,you can let a close relative such as your brother,an uncle etc to be spending time with him though you are doing a nice job but a fatherly/male figure is required,There are some roles or functions that you can deliver to your son.Gd luck
Leisa Brodnex: Maybe when he is a bit older I can take him to the Football and he can learn all those chants we have about the other Team and their supporters. Then when he is really older I can take him up the local for a pint and he can tell my missus he is just taking me out for a walk. I am not so sure you would want him to come to Mr Singh's Curry Den with me and sample a Naidoo's Toe Nail Curler because you would have to put up with him the next day.I have no doubt you do a great job for him and if I could say anything it would be along the lines of it would be preferrable for him to see a man cutting grass and DIY etc so he understands the functions of! the man and woman in a traditional marriage. His Grandad could be a big influence in his life so you should really try very hard to see your Family on a regular basis - I am sure they would love it to have their Grandson around as well.Dont worry about it. He is still young and needs his Mother rather than a Father right now and in time he will learn in his own way....Show more
Azalee Ahrendes: To be honest, I think it does matter. I am 100% supportive of single moms and I think they can do a great job! I know lots of people with two parents who are screwed up, haha.But ideally, I think children should have role models from both sexes. Some women can develop issues due to the absence of a father, and these issues show up negatively later in life when they begin dating, etc. We call them 'daddy issues' here in the States, i.e. some girls date older men, or date men who aren't good for them because they are always looking for the male approval they didn't have.As f! or boys, I think it's even more important for them to have a f! ather figure. Not having a father growing up is incredibly common among men who have rough childhoods or who engage in criminal activity at some point. Please note that the examples I just stated are not automatic, they are just possibilities. There's also tons of people raised by single mothers who are fantastic people. Women can do an outstanding job raising boys, and I think it's better to have no man around than to have a man around who's a poor influence! That said, if it is possible to have a positive, stable, and consistent male role model, then that is ideal.You sound like a good mother. You aren't bringing any man around your kids, you are being choosy, and it's not your fault that your family isn't in the same country. I would suggest that you visit family as much as possible, so your son can visit cousins, uncles, or a grandfather. If it is not financially possible to travel frequently, then think about looking into an outside source, like a youth group.! In the states we have 'big brother' groups, which partner up an adult man with a younger man to play sports, do activities, etc, just so the young man can have a positive male influence to look up to if his father is not in the picture. If you have something like that in the UK, look into it. Also, hopefully in school he might have a good male teacher, who could also be seen as a positive influence. Basically, it's good for kids to be well-rounded, and I think ideally, young men do need someone of their own sex to give them a positive example. But you keep doing the best job you can, because no matter what, he is lucky to have you!...Show more
Luis Farlow: It isn't so much a question, in the end, of doing "man-things" with a man, and "woman-things" with a woman; it's really about breaking down the very intense bond between the child and the mother. It is essential for a third party, normally the father, to come in somewhere around the child's fourth or fifth yea! r of life, and prevent the prolongation of the so-far normal Oedipus co! mplex. He wants to marry you! And he has to learn that he can't, because you are his mother, not his "lover" - these things are a bit confused in the mind of a five year old! And in order to begin to discover other people and the real world, this symbiosis - it really is a form of psychological symbiosis in which he thinks you two are sort of one entity - has to be interrupted. Under normal circumstances, this happens naturally; as the child grows older, the father takes more interest, and also begins to "reclaim" his wife for himself. In a single mother family, it is more difficult.I think you're right to keep any potential friend well away until you are very certain of his best intentions, but the man does not have to be a husband-substitute. Just somebody good whom you trust who can take him to do things together, as a father would. The man's relationship with you is not as important as the one he has with the child! But if there is no man, then you are right not to go l! ooking too hard. Goodness knows where you find the right person these days, anyway! Hope this helps, or reassures you!...Show more
Chris Rosenkranz: Hello again Sins,I did reply to your question about Mums wisdom,In which I added that she rode a motorcycle, I should also say that she brought me up for quite a few years on her own following the death of my father prior to my birth, didn't seem to do me much harm and might have helped in the fact that my wife and I have just celebrated a very long marriage, I won't say ust how long,she might not want to admit to being that old.I'm sure you'll do just fine....Show more
Coy Tapley: I'm sure you are doing a fine job of raising your son, but who is going to teach him to lay on the couch watching sport and give beer burps or whistle at the girls. Lol.
King Bringle: Well, naturally a boy who grew up without a father/mother figure will turn out differently than one who did, but I don't think it will be much of a n! egative influence. And anyways, all kids end up having problems, everyo! ne had some sort of odd thing in their childhood that effects how they are as an adult and they turn out perfectly fine. I grew up without much of a posotive female roll model and I turned out perfectly fine. (and if your kid grows up to be a serial murderer, then he probably had bigger problems than lack of dad.)...Show more
Madlyn Fallis: HiA child needs a father pointFrom the age 0-5 ma is the needed From 5-10 Pa is the manFrom 10 to 12 both is needed for a balance in a son's life itFrom 13 he built his own personaltySo if you don't have a man in you life get your brother or father or a friend to play that role....Show more
Ronny Dorge: I dont know Sins, each child turns out differently... but I know a lot of women would have a great relationship with a man raised by a woman, because he'd understand her more better and treat her according to that understanding. My brother grew up without his dad, wich is just as well because he used to beat up my mom and even! stabbed her at one stage. It did affect him in a sense and he did a few bad things and hated my dad, though he is very protective of me. He was raised by women, but turned out to be a true guy, guy.I think there will aslo be influence from outside, hanging around other men/boys/guys. You know he wont be around you always, one day he'll be all grown, living on his own and such.... I'm sure he'll be okay Sins. You're a very strong woman and I'm sure with that he'll turn out perfectly alright......Show more
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